Sometimes our personal blind spots, unaddressed by us, can become the elephant in the room for others. If everyone -except ourselves- notices an important and troubling issue about us, but nobody addresses it because it would be too delicate, uncomfortable, conflictual or politically incorrect, we are subject to becoming the elephant in the room. […]
When we get stuck in our opinions about others, our mind is like a block of cement. The amalgam of beliefs, perceptions, projections, gut feelings and hormones create a slab of impenetrable and immutable conclusions that block truer perspectives, possibilities, and connection. Our rigid conclusions become an habitual burden that sits on our shoulders. We wouldn’t […]
We human beings have a knack for converting soothing refuges into stagnant places that trap our potential. These familiar places are commonly called “comfort zones.” No judgment, no guilt and no condescension. We are wired to avoid discomfort, to seek safety and enhance pleasure. Modernity has been a blessing and a curse. We’ve become masterful […]
Life is simple. Life is complex. We have a destiny to fulfill, and an ego that clouds our clarity. The ego’s job is to fear. Our heart’s job is to feel. When the ego fears, it clenches. So does my heart. So does my communication. So do my teeth. In the turmoil of my twenties, […]
Following up on my last month’s experimentation to refuse anger and rigidity in my life, I decided to focus on humility and patience instead. Therefore, I could relax about my anger and rigidity commitment for awhile. I confess: I didn’t make spectacular progress. However, I did notice three things about my anger/rigidity that I’d like to […]
I am on an anger diet. After being on a hot button strike, I decided to explore the pervasive ways I nourish the wolf of hate in my heart, instead of the wolf of love*. *A Native American elder was asked how she had become so wise, so happy and so respected. She answered: […]
After exploring five ways to manage our mind-chatter (an inevitable consequence of our hot buttons), I have come up with five ways to engage creatively with the same damned hot buttons (instead of sweeping them under the carpet, being ashamed and/or acting self-righteous)! I will reveal them over the next weeks, but -since according to the Marketing calendar- this […]
After feathers or balloons, chewing gum, incense paper and sandcastles, here is another creative way to manage our mind-chatter! (This one has been very effective for me!) PS: By the way, we are still in part 11 of my Hot Button Mastery series. Part 12 is coming soon and will focus on ideas to creatively manage our hot buttons. I know it’s been a LONG series, which started April […]
As I keep repeating, the trick is to surprise our ego before it gets settled into deeper negative patterns. After feathers or balloons, chewing gum and incense paper, here is another way to manage our mind-chatter!
The trick is to surprise our ego before it gets settled into deeper negative patterns. After feathers and balloons and chewing-gum, here is another way to manage our mind-chatter in 2016!