It can be complicated to be in relationship with others, but it can also be quite simple.
We bond over what we have in common.
Bonding over our core fears/assumptions about connecting with others might be one way to dissolve the very same fears/assumptions we have toward others, and ultimately nurture trust.
What if the big question about trust was more a big question about connection? Instead of wondering “Can I trust these people?”, asking ourselves “Am I connected to these people, and if not, can I become connected?”
I know what you think – we can’t connect with the people we don’t trust! That’s why mistrust is the most toxic feeling/idea spread around the world…
But the simple fact of thinking about the ones I don’t trust, makes me connected to them.
If we learn to bond over our common fears of being betrayed, rejected or judged, we would reach a better understanding and thus, solve our trust issues. That’s why Personal Mastery workshops are often transformational bonding experiences.
In our culture, more inclined to individualism and isolation, let’s make bonding a sacred practice.
Reflections: What are your core fears/beliefs about being in relationships with others? Do you have sacred bonding time? With whom? What makes your relationships with others qualitative?