After skimming over our hot button fields in my two previous posts, I’m inviting you today to dig deeper into the crucial area of self-awareness. Self-awareness is our ability to accurately perceive our emotions, thoughts and behaviours in the moment. Self-awareness is key to self-transformation.
We all have the capacity to be self-aware. When we are not, it is usually for one of two reasons: either we are emotionally over-reacting, or we are emotionally under-reacting. Let me illustrate each situation.
If you tend to be emotionally over-reacting (like me), your emotions are like a pot of milk on the verge of boiling over. When you’re triggered, the milk boils and spills all over you, and drowns your discernment. You are not self-aware in the moment. In addition, you have to clean up the mess and re-fill the pot with still no time to be self-aware.
If you tend to be emotionally under-reacting (like some people I know), your emotions are like a pot of milk forgotten in the fridge on the verge of curdling. When you’re triggered, the milk goes sour, but nobody – including you- notices when you drink it. Therefore you continue your life with a big smile and just a slight unpleasant sensation in the stomach. You are truly not self-aware.
Most of us have experienced both reactions, but we usually have a predominant tendency. Here are two short quizzes to help you identify your predominant reactive tendency, exercise your self-awareness, and catch your ineffective reactions. Let me know your thoughts and STAY TUNED! More is coming next week…
Quiz 1: When something has triggered you, do you tend to think: