I just presented this sequence in a powerpoint presentation at Learning as Leadership Personal Mastery workshop last week. The presentation was fun and the workshop meaningful: a great group, a lot of healing, break throughs and armors on the floor!
To create a strong “WE”, we need a strong “I”. To create a strong “I”, we need to be in touch with the full range of who we are – strengths and weaknesses – and no resistance to show up.
The problem is that we confuse “being armored” with “being strong”.
Because of our engrained fear-based ego-strategies to protect or inflate the image we have of ourselves, we do the opposite of what would make us truly strong.
Here is what a pseudo-strong leader can look like in our modern organizations:
Therefore, here is a “strong” team:
The problem with the armor is that it looks strong, but it’s just heavy. It looks stable but it’s ungrounded. And under unexpected challenges, it doesn’t take much for the pseudo-strong “I” to collapse.
Then, once brought down, it is much harder to extirpate from the armor.
In conclusion: Don’t wait to collapse to take off the armor and discover what’s underneath. Despite years of engrained habits, it actually might not be that difficult.
Only one “R” gets in the way.
To be a strong “I”’ and create a strong “WE”, what does it look like for you to take off your armor? even just a first layer? I’d love to hear your thoughts!