Communication is often all we have to make change happen. According to my clients, communication is one of my great strengths. According to my daughter, it’s my most horrible weakness. And it’s true. I can be clear, direct, patient, witty, thoughtful, understanding, light, neutral, empathetic and loving in my communication. I can also be confused, angry, impatient, mean, cynical, critical, sulky, indulgent, melodramatic, beseeching and shut down. It’s a humbling task to constructively communicate and find a centered voice. Frankly, it’s a full-time effort. But as the wise cross-cultural anthropologist Angeles Arrien, Ph.D used to simply say: “The great news with communication is that we can always skill up.”
Building on the two cartoons of my blog Asking for help in the XXI century, I found it amusing to add eight more unproductive ways to communicate and ask for help. I associated each unproductive way with a positive attribute.
I will post one cartoon a day for 10 days and invite you to reflect on them in your own life. You will see that you can use them as guideline to improve your communication, as long as you don’t forget to be humble and persistent – like me.
Enjoy Day 1!
Reflecting on this cartoon, choose a situation in which you could be either dramatic or sober when asking for help. Notice the differences, and if you’d like, share them with me.