About Rumination

Cows have the capacity to regurgitate what they gulped down, and in the process of re-chewing again and again, they stimulate digestion, acquire nutrients and complete absorption.

 When human beings ruminate it’s another story. Unfortunately, when I regurgitate negative thoughts and re-chew them over and over, I don’t make them more digestible. On the contrary, they invade my brain and remain stuck in my system, which usually creates digestive problems.

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Ruminating is a toxic and lonely habit that we don’t hear too much about, because:

1- It’s not attractive to ruminate on negative experiences from the past.

2- It’s draining for everybody (including ourselves), to repetitively hear about negative experiences from the past.

3- It’s frustrating to be told to “move on and stop rehashing”, when we too want to move on, but are stuck in the negative experiences from the past.

4- It’s painful to admit to being stuck in the negative experiences from the past, when we want to be free.

 Therefore, I prefer to hide being a ruminator.

I’ve been chewing my cud on an interesting eastern philosophy quote, I recently heard in passing at a conference from Rick Hanson on mindfulness and neuroscience: “If you think the same thought again and again, ten is enough.”

 I’ve been pondering a lot the meaning of this sentence and came up with this conclusion: It’s okay to give myself space to rehash negative thoughts as a way to give myself compassion. Thankfully, compassion will allow me to set boundaries with my mind, and gracefully face the disenchanted truth: repeating the same negative thought from the past, over and over, is quite boring. So ten is enough*.

Sincerely Moo,

Carole

PS*: My perspective is that you can ruminate on a negative thought ten times a day, a week, or a month. If it’s ten times a year, it’s probably not rumination.

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 PS**: Rumination is a frequent habit at work, and often a consequence of our triggered Ego’s hot buttons. I’ll write more about it, but remember that my book, The Bumpy Road to Collaboration, is your indispensable practical fun tool to share with your colleagues, and stop ruminating alone.

About Rumination

8 Responses

  1. Love this Carole….your animations deepen your message!
    I will try to not rechew my old stories today 🙂

    johanna September 18, 2014 at 9:14 am #
  2. Excellent ! C’est tellement vrai!
    Lots of love from France
    Bises
    Anne

    Anne September 18, 2014 at 10:12 am #
  3. Very relevant…especially in the arena of love/significant others (that’s my favorite arena to ruminate! ; )

    I will strive for 10 is enough.

    Filaree Radich September 18, 2014 at 11:03 am #
  4. Ohhhh, Carole…..you have hit on a pattern that keeps us in our patterns that we want to shed….I’ve finally told people, “I don’t want to talk about that anymore,” as a means of erasing a deep neural groove of hurt and sorrow and it’s working! Ten IS enough. Thank you for your word picture — so great. xxxooo

    Tamara Trussell September 18, 2014 at 11:46 am #
  5. Carole, this is wonderful. I love Rick Hanson, and I love your spin on his concept of self-compassion. Perfect!

    Robin September 18, 2014 at 1:07 pm #
  6. I’ll ruminate on your post, but not more than 10 times, I promise.
    Moo moo. xoxo

    Noah September 18, 2014 at 11:24 pm #
  7. Love the picture. Reflects just how I feel when I am ruminating.

    Ian Curtin September 19, 2014 at 4:26 am #
  8. Oh, I’m not the only one! How wonderful to have a humorous approach to what can be so tormenting, and also discuss an issue that rarely is revealed.
    I have a SoulCollage® card which is a reminder of “Enough! No!” to the trigger. In my case, fierce compassion has been the portal. I will bring it in November. Looking forward to seeing you at the next LaL program.

    Laura Seligman October 24, 2014 at 4:11 pm #

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