Being detached in 2013


I wish I were more detached in my life.

Angeles Arrien* defines Detachment as our capacity to deeply care from an objective place.

As a leader at work or a mother-wife at home, I deeply care, but too often from a subjective emotional place.


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What’s preventing me from caring from an objective place?


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A HOT BUTTON is a point of sensitivity that represents a threat for the self-worth.

When a HOT BUTTON is triggered, we react ineffectively.

At Learning as Leadership

we call it a PINCH® because it often starts with a physical sensation.

When my hot buttons are triggered, I sabotage my capacity to effectively communicate with others, to creatively use my brain and to simply enjoy life.

It’s my main commitment for 2013 to master my hot buttons and get rid of them.

Yes, I know, it sounds like a titanic task.

So don’t leave me alone and join the club! More is coming about the subject…


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*Angeles Arrien is a PH.D., cultural anthropologist, author, consultant and wonderful teacher.

Being detached in 2013

4 Responses

  1. J’adore Little Carrotte – qu’est ce ça signifie (petite carrotte??)

    Justine Sider January 30, 2013 at 9:09 am #
    • Hi Justine, great to hear from you! Little Carotte is actually a nickname that JP gave me, a long time ago…

      Carole Levy January 30, 2013 at 1:16 pm #
  2. Carole,
    this was fabulous. I’ve now printed the drawing of the hot button outfit and put it on my wall to remind me about hot buttons and detachment, also a goal of mine!

    Lissette February 1, 2013 at 9:01 am #
    • I’m so glad we have one more thing in common!

      Carole Levy February 1, 2013 at 9:30 am #

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